Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again

Roberta Temes, PhD

American Management Association,  July 2009

How do you grieve the loss of a loved one? Is it best to seek the comfort of others or go it alone? Stay stoically strong or let it out? Does it take weeks, months, years? Actually, says Dr. Roberta Temes, we all experience and process grief in our own unique way.

No one can tell you exactly how you'll feel or what to do, but with Solace as your guide, you'll understand the stages of your grief and your changing and sometimes conflicting emotions. Dr. Temes will help you consider the pros and cons of bereavement groups, counselors, and other sources of help, and how to use visualization and other techniques to ease your mind and heart -- even on your worst days.

Enriched with personal stories drawn from the author's bereavement practice, Solace also provides inspiring quotes and affirmations to lift you through each day -- until the healing process takes hold and you begin once again to find purpose and joy in life.

paperback | ISBN: 9780814414637 | Publication Date: July 2009

"Solace normalizes the grieving process and helps readers to understand and accept, rather than fear, what they are experiencing after the death of a loved one. Dr. Temes provides sound psychological information in a soothing and helpful manner that eases the mourning period and promises the light at the end of the tunnel for the reader. I highly recommend Solace to anyone who has just suffered a loss."
--Dorothy W. Cantor, Psy.D., former President, American Psychological Association

"Solace offers hope for recovery. Dr. Temes writes with such warmth, kindness, and comfort. You will not only embrace [her] advice, you will also love hearing the voices of many men and women who have experienced a significant loss. Dr. Temes talks to you like a good friend, so you will not feel alone when Solace is beside you."
Ingrid Schweiger (, psychologist

"Finally, a book I can wholeheartedly recommend to patients who have lost a loved one. Solace gives compassionate and practical advice to the bereaved as well as specific actions to help cope with loss." --Laurence Jay Deutsch, MD

"[a] must-read for the bereaved. . . . Written with Dr. Temes’s characteristic compassion, Solace takes the reader through the entire bereavement process in vivid detail. I will hand this book to my patients."
--Renee Garfinkel, clinical psychologist