Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

Stephen Snyder, M.D.

St. Martin's Press,  February 2018

The next Mating in Captivity, this is a paradigm-shifting guide to thinking about and enjoying sex and intimacy in committed, long-term relationships, from one of the nation’s top sex therapists.

These are astonishing times for sex. With a click of the mouse you can learn the names for sex acts your grandparents never knew existed. But are people any happier in bed? Probably not. Research from the Kinsey Institute suggests that 25% of American women in heterosexual relationships are markedly distressed about their sex lives.

There’s no shortage of books these days on sex technique. But that’s not what most people are interested in. What they really want is to have great sex in a committed relationship, in which case all the technical expertise in the world won’t help you very much. For that, you need to understand sexual feelings—how they operate, what rules they follow, and how they connect to the rest of who you are.

Dr. Stephen Snyder's unique approach has helped over 1,500 individuals and couples master the erotic challenges of long-term relationships. Integrating the latest research on human sexuality with compelling stories from his 30 years of experience working with over 1,500 individuals and couples, Love Worth Making will help people of all ages and backgrounds master the erotic challenges of long-term relationships, understand their sexual feelings, and enjoy them for life.

Hardcover | ISBN: 9781250113115 | Publication Date: February 2018


"Prepare to be entertained, enlightened, and even outraged by this impassioned defense of pair bonding for life."
Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Primates of Park Avenue

"Love Worth Making is, hands down, the most practical, fun, and empowering book I've ever read on how to have a fabulous sex life in a committed relationship. It should be a must-reading for every committed couple who wants to keep the spark alive for many years."
Christiane Northrup, M.D., ob/gyn physician and author of the New York Times bestsellers Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Wellbeing; Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom; and The Wisdom of Menopause

"Master sex therapist Dr. Stephen Snyder takes us beneath the surface to the complex emotions and vulnerabilities that inhabit our sexual underground—then brings us back up again to connect with our true sexual selves."
Ian Kerner, Ph.D. LMFT, and New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First

"Love Worth Making does for sex therapy what Hamilton did for the Broadway musical. Joyful, sad, deadly serious, and shockingly funny all at once, this playful yet profound book opens up whole new ways of imagining erotic relationships. I can't wait to recommend it to my patients!"
Jennifer Ashton, M.D., M.S., F.A.C.O.G., Ob-Gyn, ABC News Chief Women's Health Correspondent

"A must-read for therapists who are not sex experts—the book is a guided tour of what happens when sex falls apart, and how to put it back together again."
Susan C. Vaughan, M.D., director of the Columbia University Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research and author of The Talking Cure: The Science behind Psychotherapy, and Half Empty, Half Full: Understanding the Psychological Roots of Optimism

"Most sex advice today happens to be wrong. Dr Snyder explains why. Many of the core concepts in this book are unique, and not found nowhere else. This book will motivate and empower couples everywhere."
Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., professor of psychology at American University and author of Rekindling Desire